She Said - A year later (Part 1)

Let me give a quick rundown of the past: Dave and I were both divorced parents. We had no intention of meeting anyone that would sweep us off our feet. Just someone to pass the time and share some laughs with, we were ready to parent alone and date around until life got in the way.

I met him on my first venture into online dating after over a year hiatus. He swooped in with a silver tongue and the rest was already told over a year ago. We had our children during the week days; however had two days off to date, Wednesdays and Fridays. We spent those days and nights together, until finally introducing children came into the picture. The zoo and dinners were the baby steps we took to make introductions with fairly good success.

My parents came into town in November and I had the pleasure of introducing the three of them over dinner. In December he came to my home and shared Yule and Christmas with my friends and family. New Years brought us together again with friends and our “first” New Years memories. I met his beautiful family in early 2009 and fell in love with the two of them, knowing they were the type of people you can love like you have been part of them forever.

We had put our relationship on hold for a few months, knowing we were enjoying the easy way we fell in love and the easy way we felt with one another. We knew that we would have to have “the talk”… we were in our mid 30’s and didn’t want to waste either person’s time. February 22nd was the date we set aside to talk. We would have a date, settle in and find out if we wanted to continue dating.

18 months Chronicled

Dave and I are heading into 18 months together. To many people that might not seem like a very long time, however when things work… they just work. When he and I first met in 2009 he wrote to work out thoughts in his head, and despite the fact that he might like to tell the world he’s just a “dumb guy”, he’s wrong. About the dumb part, he is defiantly a guy, perhaps more of a man than I’ve ever had the chance to meet.

The first chronicles of our relationship can be found here:

She Said- Part 1
He Said- Part 1

She Said- Part 2
He Said- Part 2

She Said- Part 3
He Said- Part 3

She Said- Part 4
He Said- Part 4

He Said- Solo
She Said- Solo

She Said- Part 5
He Said- Part 5

And not to forget the next year, he wrote up something last September to remember our year together. I hadn’t put it up until now because I had to sort through the thoughts and get past the chaos that our life had turned into.

Things have settled, they have calmed themselves into our amazing life together, so that being said, starting on Sunday I will do another He Said, She Said.

I hope ya’ll enjoy the update on us, being a single mom of six when I first started blogging, and watching one of my closest single mom friends Ms. Single Mama close the doors to her blog this past week, it helped me remember that this while path I am on, was not just MY path that I was walking alone, it is a path I share with you all. So… thank you.

Enjoy the upcoming week!

~Suzanne (Lilith) (Lily)

One year!

365 days ago I went on a date.

I had been officially single for almost a year and a half.

I wasn't looking for something other than someone to pass the time when the little ones were with their dad. I had three days a week that I could do something different, something other than sit at my desk in front of a computer until all hours of the night.

My darling friend Ms. Single Mama clued me in on a dating site Plenty of Fish. It was free, I had just deleted my yahoo dating profile and taken down all the others, however this one seemed a bit more promising a less anonymous than Craigslist.

I saw his profile. He was holding his son, they both were smiling and seemed carefree. I needed someone fun in my life so, I wrote him a quick note, funny, witty and went to bed.

A week later we ended up next to one another, and a year later, I woke up next to him.

It has been a surreal trip, we seemed to be on opposite ends of the spectrum and somehow ended up meeting in the middle.

So... with that said.... Happy Anniversary baby! One year and more to come... you are everything and more.





Now for those readers who didn't know me a year ago.... here are the posts of our first weeks together. He was amazing enough to put his side together for me when we first started dating, on his own, without me asking... perhaps I have a blogging partner? It's a thought!

Enjoy!!

She Said- Part 1
He Said- Part 1

She Said- Part 2
He Said- Part 2

She Said- Part 3
He Said- Part 3

She Said- Part 4
He Said- Part 4

He Said- Solo
She Said- Solo

She Said- Part 5
He Said- Part 5