Could you love without lashing out in a reaction to someone because of something they did?
I think this is a way that many relationships end, because they allow it all to get into the way.
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- Your significant other does something out of "character". Perhaps something as simple as NOT doing something they have done in the past.
- You react by pulling away from them, slightly, as a punishment for their transgression.
- Feeling slighted, rightfully so, and they do not do what they did in the past AND pull back.
- You feel them pull back, and so you retaliate once again.
- You both feel slighted and wronged, and no one is doing what you used to do then suddenly someone else comes along who does. Where do you think you are going to go?
Could this have been avoided?
What if you chose to not "punish" your partner? To allow them to have their bad days or to react how they need to without retaliation from you?
Would they walk all over you? Would they follow suit? Would they even notice? (If you think they would walk all over you, do you think that you should still be in that relationship?)
I think this is something I should work on, though Dave and I have an amazing ability to converse, I find myself doing this at times. Sometimes over something that is not important enough to remember the next day. How sad is that?
How about you? Do you find yourself "punishing" your significant other or worse, destroying your relationship over a small slight? Could you love without ego? Could you love without saying.. " I love you because....."? Leave off the reasons, and the stipulations.... could you love your S.O., just to love them?